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Craving acceptance » Blogging AS an Aspie
Matt has Asperger’s Syndrome (AS), an Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) and is writing this blog so that people can gain more of an insight into how people with the condition process thoughts, feel emotions, react to situations and generally handle life.

13 May 08 Craving acceptance

Sometimes, I read books like I am now (Aspergers in Love by Maxine Aston), and reflect on to what extent the different traits affect me, and how I’m balanced with regard to the ‘triad of impairments‘. Now is one of these times, and the trait I’m considering about myself is that of being accepted by my peers and those around me. It stems from the party I was at over the weekend, and also the photographs I was taking.

When I was showing the people I was with the photos on the small viewfinder, they were impressed with the initial view, and so was I. It was only when I got back to halls and loaded them up on my laptop did I realise how good they actually were. They were so good that I spend considerable time editing them in Adobe® Photoshop® Lightroom® and taking some prints of the best. The only things I’ve done are cropped, manipulated exposure, changed the tonal curve, and sharpened. I have not opened a single on in Adobe® Photoshop® CS3 to remove any blemishes or red eye.

I put the prints in plastic wallets, and attached a model release form to each photo. This was because I was taking them into college to give to the people in them, and I may well want to use some of these shots to start a proper portfolio. But, even though I knew what to expect, I was still shocked at the reactions to the photos; the girl in one of them hugged me, and her boyfriend (also in the photo, as they were kissing) just said “nice one, that’s brilliant, mate” as he shook my hand. Everybody commented on one particular photo of another girl, mainly saying that she should be a model and was I “like, a proper, real, photographer” (as one girl I’d never met asked)!

This is where the craving for social acceptance comes in. I would like to find her in college this week (not hard, you can’t miss her boyfriend – who I have another photo of, which he likes) and I’d like for her to accept my photo of her. I’d also like for her to actually frame this shot, and put it up in her house, and for her friends to say “Wow, that’s a good photo of you!” I know, being a photographer will not gain social skills, but it will provide opportunities to develop them (if you’ll pardon the pun).

PS: Before you ask, I have consent of all the subjects of to take the photos concerned above.
PPS: Once I get the model release from the young lady concerned, I’ll strip the metadata and post the shot up here!


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